Friday, August 27, 2010

K-Lifestyle~ Mischievous Kiss

I first told SuAnn about it weeks ago. I said to her that I will find out more about it and inform her about it, but she would have known it already, I think. Well, the both of us are very much excited about Kim Hyun Joong's new drama, Mischievous Kiss.


 
It look to me as if Mr. Kim's smile in the last scene was too frozen.

-LoggerHeads

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Marriage

i got this from a friend's blog and i feel that i should share it with as many people as possible.

MARRIAGE



When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.


At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.


That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!


If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.


If you do, you just might save a marriage.

Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.


So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6.


By Stephanie Halmilton

-SuAnn

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Fashion Clash, Like a true blogshop's Blog

Have you ever considered about clashing with someone when you purchase a piece of dress or other apparel? The latest fashion clash that I had heard of is Patty Hou wearing the same dress as Lin C hiLing. What appeared to be embarrassing is that Patty Hou had wore the dress after Lin Chiling, at a time in which the dress is considered as out-dated.

Well, wearing clothes that are not in the latest fashion is not a very uncommon thing. In fact, when I buy my apparrels, I tried to make sure that they are able to last through many seasons, so that I do not have to waste the money for more clothes when a season is over. But when it comes to something like a dress, it is something very tricky. A dress is hard to mix-and-match to create a look that is completely different. Most people would not even bother to mix-and-match to create a different look. To top it off, girls like dresses.

There is nothing to dislike about dresses, anyway. It is very convenient and eliminates the mix-and-match process that would involve the normal top-and-bottom combination. There are girls who wear them simply because of that. It is also very light and breezy. It can increase the femine looks of a female and shape the body of the wearer. Now, other than each individual's wearing opinions and dress sense, there is no other reason to dislike dresses.
Picture from Photobucket.

But the one thing about dress is that, if you do not try to make yourself look different from what the mannequinn looks when wearing the dress, then you are most likely going to clash with someone else. This is made worse if you are a celebrity. Yes, clashing is a very very upsetting affair. In the movie "Freaky Friday", Lindsey Lohan's character even wore her top inside-out when she realised that her top clashed with another. So, it is definitely important to NEVER clash with someone else! Because then, you lose your individuality that is so important in Fashion.

Now, when you think about blog, blogskin is very much like outfits. Blogskins are very important in creating a look that may become unique to a blog. Therefore, when I saw that there is a blogshop with the same blogskin as Loggerheads with SuAnn, I went to change the background immediately. Yes. It seemed I had delayed it for too long.

That was what I wanted to say. That last paragraph.

-LoggerHeads

Monday, August 16, 2010

i wish...

i wish i could sleep in today.


apparently no cuz today is the start of a new week and i gotta get up earlier than usual to read up on some articles before i even proceed to my place of study. and so here i am in the middle of my break of just 15mins muching on a chicken pie and updating loggerheads before i hurried off to meet my consultant.

i wish i could discipline myself for many things.

such as maybe exercising more? and eating less? but it seems to so be impossible because i just cant eat any lesser. blame me for the "black hole" in my stomach that makes food disappear so fast and keeps getting me hungry. maybe i should really start to discipline myself. or anyone have any idea of exercising without getting too tired?

i wish i could spend less money

haha! i know this is something that me, you and practically almost all the girls are facing with-spending way too much money. i am so shocked that i could easily spend up to $160 a week just on transport, hanging out with friends and food!?!?!? transportation fees nevertheless remain my number one money waster. is it my problem or is it that Singapore is facing inflation now that all the items are so ex!

-SuAnn

Fashion or Fad-sion?

During the last weekend, while my sister was preparing to leave the house, I noticed her attire. What that had captured my attention was the translucent top that she wore over the spaghetti-top. This translucent outer top had reminded me of the black translucent top that stores all over Singapore suddenly started selling. Yet, somehow, though it had looked nice, I do not see anyone wearing them. Perhaps someone did buy them and someone did wear them... it is impossible for me to see everyone of the millions of people walking around Singapore every single second. Yet, it is for sure that the translucent-outer-top did not make it into the local fashion scene. Why?



I thought back to the time when I saw these tops and why I had not wanted to buy them. I came up with these reasons:

  1. While the black tops look nice, they were generally sold at a high price that forced my hands back into my own pockets, where it stayed for the rest of the browsing-through. While I am sure that quality affects the price, I am also sure that I am unwilling to pay for such a sheer top with the price in which it called for. Oh, I am very very sure of the quality though... as sure as the eye can tell. Generally though, I am sure that people loves a good bargain. I am informed that this white translucent top costed around $10 with an accompanying white inner piece.

  2. Many people are opening their own blogshops to sell instocks or conduct pre-orders from overseas, and that includes LoggerHeads with SuAnn. This shows a ready supply rate of overseas clothes, which means there must be a demand. This shows that local shoppers love diversity in their purchases. When the black translucent top had came into the scene, I had looked around for pieces that were different in design, but unfortunately, there were close to none. I don't even remembering seeing anything that were rather different from the first black translucent top that caught my eye. If I were to buy this piece, I am afraid that I may clash clothes with someone.

  3. Frankly speaking, the black translucent top was a rather hard piece to pull off. Furthermore, I did not like the way the short piece had ended on the mannequin's body.
While I do not like this particular design, I personally feel that this is a very good replacement for the black translucent top that was featured in this post. It had a ribborn at the top, and small pokka-dots all over the piece. It kind of reminds me of vintage with a modern feel to it. Without the shortness as well as the weird cutting of the black translucent piece, this longer white one is easier to match with other clothes. Furthermore, it is sweet but not too sweet, and the price is very reasonable.

As a request of my sister, I uploaded this before and after photo.


Anyone who would like to purchase this piece? Or if you have purchase this piece, share with LoggerHeads and SuAnn how you had managed to pull it off nicely! :)

-LoggerHeads

Sunday, August 15, 2010

RE: Bad Encounter

After reading SuAnn's last post, I thought we could all give SuAnn a Hug. No one wanted to lose something, and the anxiety that accompanies the lost-and-found episode is something to truly be beheld. I am sure all of us had lost something before. I am one such person, who CONSTANTLY loses my phone, and I can say that my favourite phone was lost forever in that manner.

Personally, SuAnn had informed me of this incident, and I had been so angry that I had wanted to lodge a complain with the cab company. But like SuAnn said, let bygones be bygones. We all know that bad things happen all the time - we both keep experiencing bad things. It must be the same for the rest of the world as well. So there is no time, seriously, to dwell on each and every one of them.

I just read this article of dear Sarah, whose mother had "abandoned" her with a relative who is only 18 years old and had to support herself (she quitted school early and was disowned because of it). So now, this 18 years old relative had no idea how to feed both of them, while Sarah may not be able to go to school due to a lack of legal guardian.

I say, let's give our prayers (for those of us who are religious) and well wishes (for the rest of us who are not) to dear Sarah and many other people out there in the world. I had seen too many articles about poeple who were tortured and punished in ways that they should not be, all because they were unfortunate enough to be in some situations or have some ideas on their own.

For now, let's just forget all our bad encounters and give each other a Hug, even a forced one, just like this two children.

Picture is courtesy of Photobucket. It does not belongs to us at all.

bad encounter

It was supposed to be a joyful ride home with the taxi uncle after a party but it turns out to be a nightmare when i accidentally left my handphone in his taxi. such a bad encounter. i called up my number and luckily he picked up the call but his tone was not the same happy type previously when we chatted in his cab. he told me that he could only return my hp after he has sent his customers back and i agreed with him(knowing that it is my fault) and i even offered to go to the place where he will last be but he refused saying that he will come to my place instead.

cut the long story short, he tried to "cheat" me of my money and when i refused to pay him the amount he said, he scolded me. seriously, the amount that i gave him is ALREADY more than what he deserves and he still ask for more. and it is not as if i tell him to come to my place cuz i initially offered to go to where he is! arghh.

i have to learn to forgive and forget abt this incident.

-SuAnn

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

RE: LoggerHeads with SuAnn

This began to feels like a game of passing-the-ball! Perhaps it would resemble a facebook wall more though.

LoggerHeads feels as if I did not inform SuAnn well enough about the chances of failure in starting a Blogshop - it runs as high as a high fever. Generally speaking, those who started a blogshop in hopes of having the taste of success would know what I am speaking about. But I think we should be fine, because we are serious about this.

Because we are serious about this > So we will sit through it all the way to the end until the end is decided > So we will try to sort out all differences and problems > SO we will be fine. ^_________^

My logic stays warpped.

-LoggerHeads

Monday, August 9, 2010

RE: LoggerHeads with SuAnn

alright loggerheads, i shall continue with the story of our first business venture together.

to be honest, i thought that online shops would be an easy way to earn some extra cash and it would surely be a success. and i believe that im not the only one who thinks this way because if you would to ask around, they would surely nod their heads and say 'why not'. moreover, i have always wished to set up a business on my own next time and i thought to myself " hey, this online venture can be a stepping stone for my business in future!" hence without much consideration(thats for me but i think loggerheads did consider alot of things. haha), SEWINGPHOBIA was born!

the road to creating sewingphobia i could say was quite tiring but i do enjoy the multiple times that we sat down, brainstormed, discussed and planned for our little business together. well, there are times when we argued but there are also good memories that would always stay in my heart.

now your turn, loggerheads!

-SuAnn

Friday, August 6, 2010

LoggerHeads with SuAnn

I think we should introduce ourselves all over again!

Welcome to LoggerHeads with SuAnn!

We are SuAnn and LoggerHeads!
We are a couple of entrepreuners who tried to make it a SUCCESS in the online business world. Yes, we have a motive! But... it seems to be easier to spell "Failure" instead. Nevermind! We shall be successful - one day.

Let's start from a "3rd person" point of view:
SuAnn and LoggerHeads met each other in their workplace, where they both realised their needs/desires that is all mashed up into something called a "business venture". From there, they decided to call themselves "business partner". On the first day, they sat down in the middle of a shopping mall and started to discuss about opening an online stores and all its advantages. The disadvantages were mentioned as well, but neither SuAnn nor LoggerHeads paid much attention to it. They were so certain about their success, their minds in-syned with the about-a-thousand other blogshop owners in the world. Oh yes, they set up a blogshop.
That is the main point.

WELL THEN! Since I've already touched on the main point, Let's just leave it as it is for now.

-Cheers!, LoggerHeads.

P.S. SuAnn... why don't you continue the story?